Yesterday I admitted that I'm addicted to blogging. I asked myself why I felt the need to blog so much. Well, after thinking about it for awhile, reading more posts on the Tribe, and browsing the blogs I read (now up to 72) I think I've come up with a good answer to that question. Or at least an answer the makes sense to me.

Belonging. In my adult life I have not belonged to any groups, organizations, clubs, sports teams, or associations. I think I've found any group that I'd want to belong to. Well, I like bowling but they meet on days and times that I'm not free. I would also like to join a gay book group but I don't think I would like the books they want to read. I don't know why I haven't joined any groups as an adult. I think the sense to belong has always been in my nature but I've never had an outlet to belong. I guess you can say I am apart of the gay community but even in that community they don't accept everyone and it's very fractured into different groups. I don't belong to any of them. Even as children we want to belong, be accepted, be liked. That has carried over into my adulthood. Being apart of this rather small (compared to the masses on the internet) gay blog community fulfills some of that need to belong, to be accepted, to be liked. It seems as though all these guys (and gals) just accept you right into their blog family. It doesn't matter how tight your abs are, how big your cock is, what you write about, or how many hits or comments you get on your site. They welcome everyone. The gay bloggers group is like a kickball game in elementary school and instead of being the geeky guy they pick last, you're the popular stud that they pick first. That's what it feels like. You may not actually be the popular stud but it doesn't matter to these guys. I feel like I belong. Now if I could just find a gay bloggers bowling book club, I'd be really excited!