I’m sure everyone has gone through this. It seems that men interested in me (or anyone for that matter) comes in waves. For several months you’ll feel down and unwanted when no one is replying to your profiles on Gay.com, Match.com, or the Yahoo personals. You add new pictures, change some words, hang online hoping that someone will notice your profile and ask you out. If you are like me, you never approach anyone because you are too shy or fear rejection. You know this about yourself but never do anything to overcome it. You live your life hoping something will change without doing anything to make that change occur.

Then out of nowhere and for no reason you start getting e-mails, replies to your profiles, and guys chatting you up online. What changed to make this all happen? And then it’s a bit overwhelming. You end up with two or three guys interested in you all at the same time. What do you do? Of course you get lots of interest from men you have absolutely no interest in. You politely send them a message telling them how flattered you are but that you don’t think it’s right. For me these events seem to occur right at the time I am interested in someone and that interest is being returned, it’s mutual. I think I’m at a point in my life where I only want to focus on one person. I want to get it right without overpowering the person and ruining it. I want to take it slow, let it bloom on it’s own. You have to deal with the distractions politely without hurting feelings. It’s a very sticky thing.

Feast or famine (more famine then you care for most of the time). Anyone else experienced this gay phenomenon?