Celebrating Mom

The last few days I’ve been in Bethany Beach, Delaware. Almost all my family members gathered at a nice beach house to celebrate my mother. On Saturday we all walked down to the beach to spread my mother’s ashes. It was a very emotional gathering. She would be very pleased knowing that we all gathered together for the occasion.

While there my brother and drove down the road a bit and found the old beach house we rented for many years growing up. We were also able to have a few zoom calls with mom’s sisters and their families.

We did have a great time catching up, playing games and being silly. We celebrated some birthdays. We told stories from our childhood and shared great memories of mom. The weather was beautiful and the sunsets gorgeous. Here are a bunch of pictures from the last few days.

My Mother Died

This is the last picture taken of my mother. My older sister took it of her this morning at the hospital. Mom had been in the hospital since last Friday for the same reasons she’s being going to the hospital…fluid retention, heart valve issues, etc. She was not getting better. My sister had a conversation with my mother and they decided to have mom go to my sister’s house instead of being in the hospital. I talked to my mom on Sunday and she spoke like I’d never speak to her again. She was right.

My older sister and I drove down to Knoxville early this morning. We didn’t get there in time to say our goodbyes. The ambulance was there delivering mom to my sisters house. They got her in the kitchen and she was talking and asking for a glass of water. My brother and another sister were talking with her. And then she just died. She was still on the stretcher when my older sister and I arrived. We barely got out of the car when my brother came running out saying she had passed. My sister was hysterical. I couldn’t believe it. We went inside and got to see her and say our goodbyes. They then took her back to the hospital.

I’ll be here a few days to help make arrangements.

Back in the Hospital

Mom is back in the hospital. She’s dealing with some of the same things as last time…excess fluid, swelling, etc. She’ll be fine after she gets some water off her legs and torso. She’s on a heavy duty diuretic. I drove down yesterday and plan to stay awhile. We’ll see how long.

I’m concerned though because of the Covid 19 virus that’s going around. I know we’re in the early stages of a pandemic. I just hope I don’t get it while I’m in Tennessee. I think if I get it, I’ll die. I’ll try to be careful and not touch anything if I can help it.

Visiting Mom

Yesterday I drove down to Knoxville to visit my mom. I got there in the early afternoon and spent the rest of the day with her. Today I spent the whole day with her playing Rummikub, shopping at Walmart and basically visiting with her. She is doing very well. Back in October she was released from Hospice care. I think that means she’s going to live a long time. She is hardly using her oxygen anymore. Here’s a picture of her I took today. This was before she got her hair done in the afternoon.

Caramel Sundae

I’m staying in Knoxville until Thursday. While here I’m spending as much time with my mom as is possible. Today I took her to McDonald’s for lunch. It’s one of her favorite places to go. We decided to have sundaes for dessert. Her favorite is the caramel sundae. She really enjoyed it. It’s the little moments like this that are precious and I will remember.